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24Mar/14Off

The bourgeois goodness

I had an argument with a relative of mine: What is goodness? What does it mean to be a good person?

For her, a good person is kind, generous and forgiving. I don’t blame her. We are brought up on a staple diet of maryada puroshattam Ram who is the epitome of everything good and nice. We are taught to give to the poor, to do charity and to forgive everyone who has wronged you. And that ladies and gentlemen, makes a good human being. Being a good human is the goal of your life and that is what you should strive for.

It doesn’t matter how you earned that money to get so rich to afford charity. It doesn’t matter that you don’t ask why there are so many poor people in the first place. It doesn’t matter that you keep getting wronged, you just have to forgive. DON’T ASK WHY!

For me, goodness is respecting yourself. Forgive only those who ask for your forgiveness. Stand up for yourself, stand up for others. Don’t do charity (I, personally, hate the word). How is it generosity when you give away Rs. 1000 and earn Rs. 10000000? Is this your sense of justice?

When I said this, I was questioned of why I work for the rights of survivors of violence? The answer is simple. When I respect my space, I respect the space of someone else. I understand that a woman or a child (or a man), just any human being has a right to just BE without violence. I believe the same for animals. (And hence, Pet Santa).

Goodness is being able to sleep at night knowing you did the best you could and yet feeling that tinge of guilt wishing you could have done more.

Am I selfish? Yes, maybe. I am fine with that. For me, the world doesn’t end at me. I am not self-centered yet I fight for what is mine. I will fight to restore balance as much as I can. I never not intervene thinking it isn’t my place.

Best thing about me is that I am pompous, unabashedly so and yet, will defend your right to say whatever you want.

What do you guys think?

(And yay, my first post on this blog. Thank you, C for letting me do this)

Posted by Rashi V

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  1. [It’s an utter and complete co-incidence that the previous commenter and I share (more or less) our first names and are here to talk about pretty much the same thing.]

    “It doesn’t matter how you earned that money to get so rich to afford charity.”

    I think you may have missed the memo which forbids (or at least frowns upon the first two) begging, borrowing and stealing.

    “I am not self-centered yet I fight for what is mine. I will fight to restore balance as much as I can.”

    Hey, I can offer 1000 Rupees to someone who really needs it, in my attempt to restore, in my own way, some economic balance, can’t I?

    P.S.: If this had been a First of April post, I’d bet that C was pulling our legs by pretending to be a rebellious adolescent. 😉

  2. I’m not sure I understand why giving Rs 1000 to charity when you make Rs 1,000,000 is a bad thing. Is it somehow worse than NOT giving it? Is justice being served by not giving money to a worthy cause?

    And why wouldn’t you do charity? You say you hate the word, but haven’t really provided any justification.


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