When silence is neither golden, nor comfortable
Statistics are just statistics till they hit close to home. Statistics say that every day, there’s one fatal accident on the Chennai Bangalore highway. Well, that statistic failed to have any impact till one of our own was affected.
A brother-in-law, very close to us, died of a tragic road accident on the way from Bangalore last Sunday. And then you realise that life is just too fragile. Life has this amazing tendency to stare you fully at the face, and you don’t recognize it, till it disappears.
What does one tell his wife, my cousin? What does one tell his little girl, all of 2 years old? What does one even tell oneself? That it is OK when somebody dies, cause there are others alive? That very soon, the one who dies will be a very happy memory, so don’t cry? How does one even face the people who have lost the most?
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Chandrachoodan Gopalakrishnan is a copywriter, photographer and goofball from Chennai. He is also an archaeologist, historian and a city lover. He is currently a documentary film-maker and desk-monkey for a film production house.
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June 15th, 2005 - 23:25
Sincere Condolences.
Keeping atheism aside let me say, may the good man’s soul rest in peace
Saket
June 16th, 2005 - 10:58
Chandoo,Many of my close friends have had fatal accidents in NH4.Only thing we can do, make sure that the child is taken care of.
My condolences and prayers to the bereaved family
June 16th, 2005 - 11:58
My sincere condolences.
Its unconceivable when it falls near and around you. It sends a shock wave and I can’t imagine or want to imagine. It goes unnoticed or casual when its not near, and someone not related dies.
That’s death. All those who do not fear death, you wouldn’t be alive to be afraid when you die. So the statement doesn’t make sense. Death is fearful to people who live near/with the deceased.
June 16th, 2005 - 12:48
My heartfelt condolences on this loss to you, your family and in particular, to your cousin. Yes, the child must now be taken doubly care of so that she does not grow up feeling totally orphaned! May your brother in law’s soul rest in peace!
June 16th, 2005 - 13:40
nobody dies; they live in memories and in the genes of children – quoted by Writer Sujatha. I like this definition. A little convincing, isn’t it ??
June 16th, 2005 - 16:15
My condolences on your lost.
What you can do is help in making sure the burdens and red tape that comes with death is lessened. Death is hardest on the living as with it comes truth.
June 16th, 2005 - 21:04
Death is so final…so very fatal.
May God grant your cousin the courage to pull through this.
Take care.
June 16th, 2005 - 22:51
My condolences on the loss.
June 17th, 2005 - 00:22
My condolences, Chandru… what can one say – hoping and praying your cousin finds the strength to carry on with life…
June 17th, 2005 - 11:23
Read Bhagavd Gita As it is Chapter 2.It will give some solace not only to the people living also to the soul which has gone to next destination.
June 17th, 2005 - 11:51
My deepest condolences da. I am sorry about the tragedy.
June 17th, 2005 - 22:40
The ones whom we truly love never leave us. It feels like there’s a huge weight pressing upon one’s chest when a close friend/relative is lost. But no, that won’t last for long. It may sound harsh, but life has to go on.
June 18th, 2005 - 17:00
First time on your blog..But I feel vey sad about your brother in law..
And I pray for your cousin to face all the situations with courage and strength…
June 19th, 2005 - 19:29
No words can heal the pain,Just praying that God gives enough strength for dealing with life with courage.My condolences.
June 20th, 2005 - 01:19
My sincere condolences.
I agree – statistics like one in a million arent that important, unless that one is you, or somebody you know.
May his soul rest in peace.
June 20th, 2005 - 22:53
what can i say? well, keep on blogging!
June 21st, 2005 - 13:54
Condolences. And yes, far too many accident in that zone. Pays to be careful.
June 21st, 2005 - 14:16
Silence is uncomfortable, but words too would be empty in this situation. There is nothing to do but to get on with life.
June 21st, 2005 - 15:43
CC, I am so sorry to hear that. May his soul rest in peace and may God give the loved ones the courage. My sincere condolences
June 23rd, 2005 - 00:04
my heart felt condolences to you and your family.
June 23rd, 2005 - 23:52
Chandru,
My condolences and thanks for contributing to Nirantar despite the tragedy. May God grant you and the bereaved enough strength to bear the loss.
June 24th, 2005 - 08:12
Deepest Condolences Chandra.
June 26th, 2005 - 14:54
hi anna,
u share my views abt being an atheist. my deepest condolence for gayathri and smrithi.