Grow up
I got a mail this morning from “a long time reader” of this blog, and one “i hv also been commenting heavily on your blog”.
This person wants to know why I don’t comment on that person’s blog. The person goes on to say “I even put you on my blogroll. But you don’t come to my site at all”
So, for the benefit of that person, plus others who might be harboring similar doubts, here is my answer.
I don’t have a 36 hour day. I have the usual 24 hours. Within which, I need to squeeze my job, my friends, my lunch, my parents and their requests, my life (or an excuse of one) and sundry other things.
I need to also tune out once in a while. There is this thing called sleep which I need to have a minimum of 5 hours.
So I wouldn’t go about squandering it by commenting on every blog that links to me. Or who comment on my blog.
I don’t comment unless I have something relevant to say. (Or if I need to pass on some information, or thank people for something) Also, I ensure that I check every blog on my blogroll at least thrice a week. Plus I have a newsreader that tells me if something new is put up on the blogs that I read.
So even if I am not commenting over at your blog, you can be sure that I know exactly what you are talking about. Plus, do tell me where exactly is it said that I am compelled to comment on your blog every time you do at mine?
The other issue you raised, about having you on my blogroll. If you link to me, I generally reciprocate. Plus, I also look to see if there is something worth reading. Rants about how your life sucks because your boyfriend or girlfriend dumped you isn’t necessarily stimulating read.
Now that we have this little matter resolved, I guess it is time to tell you that you have been purged from my blogroll. Best of luck with your life.
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July 15th, 2004 at 3:01 am
lol .. You made me laugh ..
Once I read on a blog: “Oh I have always dreamed that this guy link to my blog” and she as so happy that the guy finally did
Rebecca Blood once said that she received “an offers of cross-linking” ... maybe there are offers of cross commenting to
Most of the blogs I read are not in my blogroll…nearly a 100 in my bloglines list.
July 15th, 2004 at 3:10 am
Hi!
Welcome. It gets a little difficult after a point of time to manage to read all blogs and to comment. I get offers of cross linking too. And I
do accept them. But asking me to comment is too much
Anyway, glad that you liked the post.
Ravages
July 15th, 2004 at 4:20 am
How more rude can u get!!understand n appreciate ur pt of view…....but theres a way of sayg things
July 15th, 2004 at 4:33 am
Hi!
Welcome. I don’t think I was rude. I just put across my points. After all, I didn’t ask that person to link to me, or to come to my blog daily. It was the person’s personal choice. It is my personal choice, the same way, to comment on other’s blog. I will comment if I feel like it.
One can’t beg me to come to their blog to comment.
July 15th, 2004 at 4:47 am
hmmm
July 15th, 2004 at 5:00 am
What you say is true of any organized set up like Ryze, yahoogroups or any other public forum. I thought blogs were a popular medium because they let the individual be his true self without having to follow certain rules set by the administrator.
However your experience shows that here too people tend to form groups / clique and act on a quid pro quo basis.
“There is this thing called sleep which I need to have a minimum of 5 hours” – how I envy ou, I need minimum of 8 hours to be my normal self
July 15th, 2004 at 9:21 am
Only 5 hours? :-O Lucky you, I need 8 but have to adjust with 6
July 15th, 2004 at 9:25 am
What’s that supposed to mean MMV?
I agree Chenthil. There’s too much grouping and clique-ing.
Pleo & Chenthil, I need 5 hours as the barest minimum. I have also been known to go for 16 hours continuously asleep
July 15th, 2004 at 10:12 am
Cool Mama, Cool. It happens CC.
July 16th, 2004 at 4:16 am
Sleep..that one thing which keeps eluding me:)
I forgot to tell you U never ever comment on my blog:((((...(cudn’t resist:p)
July 16th, 2004 at 5:41 am
cc here u go
thought the stuff below was a bit too rude
and definitely not ur style
“Rants about how your life sucks because your boyfriend or girlfriend dumped you isn’t necessarily stimulating read.”
after all it is this personal touch that makes a blog less of a newsmag and more of an interactive medium
personal attacks are in bad taste but ofcourse i assume that this was triggered by the mail that u had rcvd
probably sometimes i just over react
cheers
have a great wkend
July 16th, 2004 at 5:52 am
Ravages, for a copywriter, you sure waste a lot of words.
You could’ve just written “up yours” and be done with it. :))
July 16th, 2004 at 6:35 am
I agree a blog is a personal thing, and that writing about your life
and all makes for a special diary. And that it is what differentiates
blogging from conventional media.
But how am I supposed to contribute to that? Do I tell the person to
go and chase the lover. Or forgive and forget it. You see the
predicament writing personal posts put other people in? Whatever I
write, I will be perceived as biased/offensive/frivolous.
If I argued for forgive and forget, that person might think that I am
talking through my hat and I don’t know what I am talking about. The
same will be true of the other case. Plus, I might also seem to
interfering in a personal issue.
Also, how can I advise on another’s love life?
I know personal attacks are bad. Which is why I didn’t mention the
person’s name or email or details. I still am referring to the person
anonymously.
Also, as I mentioned to the others who had reacted to the post, that
particular mail was very offensive. The person became obscene, and
vulgar. I didn’t mention it, cause I didn’t want to, but when things
go to that level, I am forced to react. And strongly.
Hope this clears the confusion.
July 16th, 2004 at 9:11 am
Queer: Sleep! Sleep well! Sleep well, cause I shall soon comment on your blog
Ripples: What I hate about that particular mail, and why I acted the way I did, was the person got a little offensive towards the end. I didn’t post it, cause I didnt want to. But it gets stupid if people beg me to come and comment on their blog.
July 16th, 2004 at 10:32 am
hey I was kidding:D. You don’t have to feel obligated to do anything in blogs…thats the point…its my life, my blog, my wish;)
July 16th, 2004 at 10:41 am
Exactly! Thank you! I wish you could tell it to that bozo who sent me the mail.!
July 16th, 2004 at 11:50 am
By any chance, did the mail contain the foll words: “Dr” “Ayya” “Thailapuram” “Anbumani” “Ramadoss” “Gajendra” “Rajinikanth” “Vijayakanth” “Baba” “VCD” “Kaduvetti”? You better go to the blog, leave your comments daily. If you are smart enough, grab one of those bots that can churn out comments daily. It must leave comments like Kumudams’ vasagar kaditham. For example, “Ungal blog indru kanden…nandraaga irunthathu…aanalum umakku kusumbu jaasthi…he he he”.
You better make sure you do this in that persons blog, in case, any of the words I mentioned is involved, lest we dont want to have buses burnt, all blogrolls taken away and burnt, tree felled, enraged Tamizhan TV showing more homeshopping ads…please, put a stop!
July 16th, 2004 at 12:22 pm
Oh, I have said this before (I dont remember where) and say it again. When people are involved, whatever kind of interaction it might be, they tend to build hidden rules and forms. Like Chenthil said, while blogging does give some kind of independence from this, these kinds of occurences do happen (how stupid was that sentence!). Anyway, I think Iam just agreeing with what you said.
July 16th, 2004 at 12:49 pm
Vanga Mr. Nakkal! Romba naal aachu!
No Dr. Ayya. But it did have a name close to Ramadass.
But yes, I shall comment on that blog. I don’t want Tamizhan TV to go on a crusade.